Remember the time before we had cell phones? It wasn’t too long ago. Depending on your age, you either watched cell phones gradually integrate into society or grew up with them, never knowing a world without them.
Regardless of your experience, you’ve probably noticed how prevalent cell phones have become. When you go outside, most people are on their phones, rarely looking up to observe their surroundings. Even in nightclubs, it’s now common, especially among women, to be glued to their phones.
The combination of cell phones and social media has taken over many people’s lives.
Imagine you’re constantly on your phone, whether you’re outside, eating, or trying to have a conversation. This can become problematic. If you’re listening to music but still aware of your surroundings, it might not be as bad. However, if you’re entirely engrossed in your phone, oblivious to your environment, it can be dangerous. Lack of awareness of your surroundings can be risky if something unexpected happens.
Another issue is how being on your phone in public can limit social interactions. You might miss opportunities to connect with others because you’re too focused on your device. For example, if I see a girl on her phone while I’m out, I’m less likely to approach her—especially if she’s actively engaged in a call or playing with her phone. It creates an invisible barrier that makes it harder to initiate a conversation. This doesn’t mean that girls (or anyone) should always be available, but being social and aware is important, and cell phones can get in the way of that.
The chances of meeting the same person again are slim, so it’s a good idea to stay aware of your surroundings and not let your phone dominate your life. In nightclubs, social events, bars, and similar settings, having your phone as a constant barrier limits your social interactions. A person who is highly conscientious is aware of these barriers and takes calculated risks to avoid them.
For example, if a guy notices a girl constantly on her phone, he’s probably not going to approach her. The same applies to job environments. If you see a boss at a construction site or office who’s always on their phone, it creates another invisible barrier, making you less likely to approach them. This can negatively impact your first impression, as it seems like you’re interrupting them.
Overusing cell phones at social events or gatherings can be a significant issue. These events are meant for meeting people and socializing. If you’re on your phone, texting, playing games, or engaging in other activities, especially with many people around you, you limit your opportunities for interaction and connection with others.
If you’re interested in exploring this subject further, consider joining MJ’s upcoming events, where these topics will be discussed in detail.
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